Beauty

In London yesterday saw one of the most beautiful girls I have ever seen. Infact she was what I have come to call Transcendental - in that she was without comparison: a beauty of her own to which nothing can compare. I'm also evidently gaining some wisdom and strength because I recognise how dangerous such creatures are!

Some bloke was fawning over her and she walked through the crowd leaving a wake of rubber-neckers. One poor bloke was brought to a complete standstill with his head was spinning. He stopped and had to look around with a look of shock and disbelief on his face.

At times like this there is a razor edge between the path to happiness and the path to unhappiness. There are actually two razor edges. Firstly do you "arretez" or "allez" to use a term from an old post. Is it green light or red light. If its red light you are safe. If its green light, unfortunately this means that you awaken inside to the possibilities and then you are struggling. The two possibilities are success and failure. So you need to enter a struggle with other suitors to gain her attention and affection. This is the path that makes heros and losers, that for which wars are fought. They cynically say the Battle of Troy was fought for money and power - yet why do men take territories if they are honest? It is for breeding rights. That is what we are at war for. In war there are two types of people: winners and losers.

One must feel sorry for all those who get bound into this path because it is for both winners and losers a struggle. I saw myself in bit in the guy who was fawning over the girl - that was me with "my muse" - altho I acted otherwise - inside that was me (especially when I realised that this was never going to work). I feel sorry for the girl herself. She must live in a world where everything is directed toward her. She has no idea what life is like over the fence away from the glare of attention that she must receive. Lao Zi would say that the best way is the middle - neither so ugly that people are repulsed and neither so beautiful that people are attracted. Both ways are "noticable" and both ways are enslaving. The middle way gives us peace and freedom.

There are many dangerous thoughts which then can occur. We may think: "I deserve her", "she will be mine", "I want her", "imagine (while not yet having) being with her" etc. These enrage the territorial instinct and the Ego. Once the situation is framed between self and other: me and her, me and not-her, not-me and her then the suffering begins. A cynical approach is to seek her but not allow oneself to get involved. Those who kill their hearts with cynicism and pain and seek conquest inauthentically simply to try and compensate that pain: the "bad boys": this I imagine is often why these girls will end up with a "bad boy": why they will have unsuccessful relationships and rarely find happiness. It is a dangerous work that she inhabits and a world that will turn men into eager rock-climbers: the precipitous depths below testing their every move. Is it really work the effort?

It is a hard thing to learn but actually nipping that desire at its first outset - taking "arretez" as ones first response ensures peace, freedom and wisdom. Tho the ego will accuse us of being a coward: test the ego and see whether it first has the strength to say no! If one cannot say no how can one say yes! For if we let her say yes for us then we are lost forever (well for many years as I have been)!