Finding our Faults

I have a problem with pride. My sister first identified it last week. It makes sense I've been told this before and I've been aware of it subliminally. So why does it take so long to find?

The problem is that a fault tends to show only when we are faced with someone who has that problem worse, so we justify our actions in terms of them. If someone gets angry with us then then we feel justified in getting angry with the. If someone actacks us we feel justified in being aggressive with them. In my case if someone acts superior to me then I feel justified in challenging their superiority. If someone lies about us then we feel justifed in lying about them. If someone is rude to us we feel justified in being rude to them. If someone is unfaithful to us then we feel justified in being unfaithful to them. If someone hates us we feel justified in hating them... and so on.

There are a variety of explanations for this which don't matter but for completeness. It could be because we project our view onto the world around us. It could be because we actually create the world around us through our actions in the past. It could be because this is actually what happens.

It doesn't matter however. The point is that other people's faults have nothing to do with our own faults. What we chose to do in a situation is up to us and we alone will be judged for it. So even if everyone else is losing their heads and blaming it on us that is not a factor we need to worry about. Thus if we join in then we have that problem to.... etc etc