Pleasure at no-ones expense

This is critical as another example from my girlfriend demonstrates.

She is deeply hurt by any affection shown to me by another girl and especially if that girl gets my attention.

It transpires that when she was single she gained pleasure by gaining the attention of married men, especially at the expense of their partners.

Having reinforced the rule that winning attention over the partner was the name of the game, she in turn is now emprisoned by that game now that she is in a relationship.

The illustrates perfectly why we should never draw battle lines and rules that discriminate between people, i.e. between winners and losers and between happy and sad people, because once those battle lines are drawn we will one day be a victim of them.

The moral is that all distinctions we place are temporary, and even while they may suit us today, there is never reason to fix them for one day they won't suit us and we will wish they were not fixed.

This is to be distinguished from those laws that quite properly should apply to everyone.