can the Subject ever be the Object?

It is true that Being should be understood in its full enormity and not limited to just knowledge and cognition. In other words the "good life" is not one of only mental activity and correctness, but includes one's whole interaction with existence on all level. That said the mental world, the world of words, can be a testing ground for the wider aspect of our being.

The question here, and posed to my girlfriend last night, can the Subject ever be the Object?

What is Subject and Object?
Object is anything that you can point at. Obviously that's physical things, but point at includes anything we can point at with words. So I might say that I have an idea. It's not physical but I am pointing to its existence and I am aware of it in the world at large.
The subject, by contrast, cannot be pointed to. It is the thing which does the pointing. In simple terms it is the self. But as we will see much of what we consider ourself can actually be pointed to, and the self cannot be pointed to.

Can we point at ourselves?
That is the challenge. Everything we might point to: emotions, thoughts, memories suddenly becomes an object. And for each object there is always a subject doing the pointing. Can we envisage putting our whole self on the other side of the finger of pointing? No, there will always be the agent of awareness and living doing the looking.

If we can't point to ourselves, or anything about ourselves then we cannot say that we differ from moment to moment. It was the same subject looking at the world yesterday as today. (Strictly we can't say we are the same either, but I am trying to remove the idea that subject has any distinguishing features.)

A complete awareness of the Subject and how it refuses any definition is a huge step to freedom. All the things we think about ourselves and other people think about ourselves, all the features we think we need such as food and life are actually objects - they are not us. This is true for all subjects also. Any person we meet is not an object, but a subject, and that means we can only understand them in opposition to the physical and mental object that they present to us.

Subjectivity is without bounds. Does not exist in time and space like objects and the notion of identity, life and personal existence is completely transformed. It is very liberating and is a further exposition of the notion of "being oneself" outlined before.