Self confidence

I realise that the solution to a giving relationship requires self confidence. To think that there is worth in giving oneself to someone means that we must value ourself. When we have strong desires for someone we tend to value them very much, obviously more than we value ourself - for whom we have no desire. This might be confusing at first because we cannot understand why someone would value having us, and so I imagine most relationships default to taking, where each partner simply takes what they want.

Maybe then as trust is developed in the relationship and people realise that they are valued by the partner both self-confidence increases and thoughts of giving replace thoughts of taking.

For me who is already concerned for giving the process then is greater self-confidence and understanding the mutual possibility of giving, and then embark on a loving relationship.