The Art of Non-Duality

This observation about the nature of Romantic Love gives an excellent demonstration for the language of Non-Duality that occurs throughout philosophy texts both in the East and the West.

We might say:

Noone is special because everyone is special.

What does this mean?

Well "my muse" has evidently been extraordinarily special to me. More special than anyone ever. However we also know that everyone has that extra-special person in their lives (apart from themself ;-).

Now comes the realisation that she is only so special because to mate I need to find someone, and that someone my ego dictates must be as special as I think I am myself! So her specialness is an illusion sprouting from the illusion that I am unique and special.

So the illusion dies and I see that everyone thinks they are unique and special and everyone seeks that unique and special partner. Everyone is equally special in their own eyes, and their partners equally unique and special in their own eyes.

However that does not distract from the fact that within my life I respect the uniqueness and specialness of "my muse". Nothing there has changed.

So there is this slightly uneasy and contradicting position where I respect her in every possible way, hold her in the highest esteem yet at the same time understand that this is replicated around the world in everyones eyes and so she is not really that unique and special.

Satisfaction with that contradiction is bliss!